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Dinner Confidential is a community that hosts themed monthly dinner conversations [with women*] around the world.
When we really feel we belong, we gain the courage to make positive change in our lives and our world.
We’ve created the perfect recipe to spark that sense of belonging. All you have to do is open up and savor the experience.
*all folks who identify as female in a significant way
One dinner, one night a month , one topic, discussed around a dinner table.
Dinner Confidential offers a safe space for women and female identifying folk to come together and talk with vulnerability and honesty about our most personal topics and emotions (e.g. self-confidence, fear, control).
After each dinner, we identify the key global learnings and insights from the topic and share them with our community so they too can benefit from the experience.
Currently we are holding dinners in over 20 cities worldwide.
FOR MOST OF OUR LIVES, WE HAVE BEEN TOLD TO AVOID OR SUPPRESS OUR INTENSE AND POWERFUL EMOTIONS. SOCIETY HAS HAD AWAY OF TELLING US THAT OUR FEELINGS ARE TOO COMPLEX, TOO UNPREDICTABLE—AND THAT ARE BEST LEFT IGNORED. OUR INTERNAL RESPONSE TO THE MESSAGES WE HAVE RECEIVED HAVE RANGED FROM A LACK OF INQUIRY TO A TOTAL SHUTDOWN AND SENSE OF DEEP SHAME.
Going through life & experiencing these emotions in silence, we have been left wondering, “Am I the only one who feels this way? Is it just me?”
NOW IS THE TIME TO REMOVE THE LAYERS OF SHAME AND SUPPRESSION AND EMBRACE TRUE CONNECTION SO WE REMEMBER THAT WE ALL BELONG.
Each Dinner is focused on one specific topic and lasts about 3 hours. We keep the groups small (6-10) to ensure we have time to dive deep into the conversation and everyone has time to share.
All conversations are CONFIDENTIAL.
• Dinner’s are held at hosts’ home
• We provide healthy and delicious food
• You BYOB (wine, flavored water, etc.)
• Not for profit, small fee to cover costs
• Come ready to share
Everything we discuss
is confidential and we all make a promise not to share what is spoken outside of the room
Treating ourselves and others with care
No one is above or below anyone else - we are all teachers and students to one another
Choosing to be vulnerable so we can truly connect and be seen for all that we are
Offering one another our full attention and focus
Welcoming people from all backgrounds, races, religions, ethnicities, beliefs and perspectives
Everything we discussed is confidential and we all make a promise not to share what is spoken outside of the room
Treating ourselves and others with care
Being able to share our darkest feelings and feel uncomfortable for the sake of becoming more resilient
Being aware of the other people in the room and not monopolize the conversation
Only sharing personal stories, things that we know are true to us
Welcoming the full spectrum of ideas and perspectives
*DECEMBER*
It's that feeling of not being enough. Wrong. Dirty. Inherently bad. We feel shame towards core parts of who we are, what we've done, or how we present to the world. Whether it's personal or systemic, shame is a painful emotion, one which keeps us locked in cycles of blame, victimization and self-contempt.
Join us for an honest and vulnerable conversation around shame - where we inherited it from, where it shows up in our bodies and in our lives, and what keeps it there. Ultimately, what would our lives look like without our shame, and is that even something we are prepared to explore?
*JANUARY*
There are few things we need more in life than to feel like we truly belong. It's about feeling seen, accepted and loved for all that we are - even the dark, scary parts we'd rather hide away. Belonging is a core human need that for many of us, never quite feels fulfilled, leaving us feeling isolated, untethered, anxious or hurt. Let's talk about belonging - with our families, our relationships, our communities, and with ourselves.
What does feeling like "we belong" look like? What prevents us from feeling that way? And how can we promote a deeper sense of belonging in our lives?
*FEBRUARY*
Many of us take our health (physical, mental, emotional) for granted until something goes wrong— and when that happens, it becomes all consuming. When we are not healthy, we can feel fragile, weak and vulnerable. And at times, we can also feel strong and resilient. How can we transcend the deep fears we experience when we—or our
loved ones—are not healthy? How can we develop more trust
and acceptance?
Let’s have an honest conversation about our health. How we deal with sickness (ours and others) and what gives us our strength back.
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What people are saying...
“This was one of the most empowering and vulnerable experiences I’ve ever had. Sharing your innermost feelings to strangers you weirdly trust more than your closest friends.”
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“The discussion on fear has really been on my mind in the weeks and months (now) since it passed. It was an incredibly memorable experience to tackle such a raw and personal topic head on with others... and left me with a feeling of comfort in some way knowing that I wasn’t alone in how I feel / how I struggle.”
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“The opportunity of sharing my experiences and allowing myself to be vulnerable in a con dential setting, while hearing the experiences from others has been liberating. A lot of the times you think you are the only one that feels or thinks in a particular way, and then you see that we all struggle with the same things, perhaps in different ways since we all have personal journeys. Every time I leave one of these women circles I feel empowered.”
Who created this thing?
MIAMI
I am a researcher and leadership coach. As a coach, I support founders, entrepreneurs, artists and female leaders to cultivate presence so they can lead with deeper clarity and courage. I am also a researcher for The Wellbeing Project and a mom of two young kids.
Back in 2017 I was feeling "alone in my head," struggling with my confidence and living with deep fears. When I invited 8 women into my home to talk about Self-Confidence, I never imagined that soon afterwards Dinner Confidential would be born and that this experiment would turn into a big and exciting global community. To make real change we need each other, and it all starts with having a real and honest conversation.
BROOKLYN
I am an intuitive brand strategist, helping mission-driven business owners connect to their core WHY – their authentic soul purpose – and build powerful brands that reflect their values from the inside, out. In parallel to my work in brand strategy, I am currently on my path to becoming a somatic psychotherapist through a Masters in Mental Health Counseling. I am also a yoga teacher, Holistic Health Coach and a Reiki 1 practitioner.
For me, Dinner Confidential is truly a revolution. As a platform, we are returning the feminine paradigm back to the place of support, connection, and collaboration. Our stories aim to inspire and uplift, reminding women all over the world that they are not alone. Our ideas provide strength and courage, creating an empathetic movement of confident, empowered women. Viva la revolution!
How do you host dinners around the world?
They are experienced professionals in the art of moderation, experts in facilitating enriching dialogue amongst dynamic groups of people.
They are researchers, facilitators, academics, and anthropologists, all united in their dedication to to feminine connection, cooperation and equality. But beyond their professional credentials, our Hosts are natural community builders. They are emboldened storytellers. They are women who listen and share with deep vulnerability, women who are open to learn, and women who have a passion for creating a safe container for other women.
Interested in becoming a host? Please apply here.
Our Hosts
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CARACAS
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PORTLAND
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CHICAGO
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TEL AVIV
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SAN FRANCISCO
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SEATTLE
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PORTLAND
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TORONTO
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LIMA
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MONTREAL
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PUERTO RICO
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AMSTERDAM
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NORMAN, OK
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LOS ANGELES
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BOGOTA
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SAO PAULO
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MUMBAI
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WASHINGTON DC
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DUBAI
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LONDON
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BEIRUT
After each dinner, we share key learnings and insights from the night with our community so they too can benefit from the experience.
Explore our full archive of past dinners here.
SEE MORE STORIES
Anyone that is female identifying. Inclusivity is one of our core values! If you are male identifying and would love to attend a dinner, let’s talk!
Sometimes. But usually they don’t and that’s part of the magic. Coming into a place full of strangers to open up and share some of your most personal experiences is very powerful. No one there knows your history, you are a blank canvas. People won’t judge you or give you advice (unless you specifically ask for it). We are there to listen, share and connect.
We include a vow of confidentiality in our invitation, and reiterate the importance of confidentiality at the start of each dinner. We create a strong container of trust and integrity, and expect the same of all of our participants.
We are glad you are interested in attending a dinner. See our Join Us section to view dates, times and locations and to purchase your ticket.
Dinners are $15 and they include a healthy and yummy meal + drinks (wine and sparkling water). Note that we are NOT making any profit from these evening and the fee only covers the cost.
Our hosts will charge attendees a small venmo fee ($15 to cover dinner costs). So let’s call it net-zero profit.
We welcome hosts all over the world who has experience moderating or mediating group conversations. If you want to learn more about our host program, contact us at connect@dinnerconfidential.org.
Our hosts will always ensure there are vegetarian options available. If you have specific dietary restrictions, be sure to communicate with your host at least 1.5 weeks in advance.
Our secret is our hosts and the stories we tell! Our dinners are led by professional moderators, researchers and facilitators all around the world. Brilliant women with years of experience conducting challenging conversations amongst diverse groups of people. We’re less about the woo-woo, and more about the the raw, real and impactful conversations with tangible insights for our attendees to take home with them and implement within their daily lives.
We put a lot of love and effort into these dinners so please do your best to avoid a last minute cancellation. If you need to cancel, try to find a replacement. All cancellations made less than one week in advance can’t be refunded.
For general info shoot us an email at
connect@dinnerconfidential.org
We have “ambassador” hosts that moderate dinners all over the world. If you are interested in becoming a host, contact us at please fill out this form.
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