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*all folks who identify as female in a significant way

ABOUT

One dinner, one night a month , one topic, discussed around a dinner table.

Dinner Confidential offers a safe space for women and female identifying folk to come together and talk with vulnerability and honesty about our most personal topics and emotions (e.g. self-confidence, fear, control).

After each dinner, we identify the key global learnings and insights from the topic and share them with our community so they too can benefit from the experience.

Currently we are holding dinners in over 20 cities worldwide.

Why we exist

FOR MOST OF OUR LIVES, WE HAVE BEEN TOLD TO AVOID OR SUPPRESS OUR INTENSE AND POWERFUL EMOTIONS. SOCIETY HAS HAD AWAY OF TELLING US THAT OUR FEELINGS ARE TOO COMPLEX, TOO UNPREDICTABLE—AND THAT ARE BEST LEFT IGNORED. OUR INTERNAL RESPONSE TO THE MESSAGES WE HAVE RECEIVED HAVE RANGED FROM A LACK OF INQUIRY TO A TOTAL SHUTDOWN AND SENSE OF DEEP SHAME.

Going through life & experiencing these emotions in silence, we have been left wondering, “Am I the only one who feels this way? Is it just me?”

NOW IS THE TIME TO REMOVE THE LAYERS OF SHAME AND SUPPRESSION AND EMBRACE TRUE  CONNECTION SO WE REMEMBER THAT WE ALL BELONG.

How does it work?

Confidential conversations around a theme, at dinner table, in a home.

Each Dinner is focused on one specific topic and lasts about 3 hours. We keep the groups small (6-10) to ensure we have time to dive deep into the conversation and everyone has time to share.

All conversations are CONFIDENTIAL.

• Dinner’s are held at hosts’ home
• We provide healthy and delicious food
• You BYOB (wine, flavored water, etc.)
• Not for profit, small fee to cover costs
• Come ready to share

Our Values

CONFIDENTIALITY

Everything we discuss
is confidential and we all make a promise not to share what is spoken outside of the room

VULNERABILITY

Being able to share our darkest feelings and feel uncomfortable for the sake of becoming more resilient

HONESTY

Only sharing personal stories, things that we know are true to us

KINDNESS

Treating ourselves and others with care

RESPECT

Being aware of the other people in the room and not monopolizing the conversation

INCLUSIVITY

Welcoming the full spectrum of perspectives and backgrounds

CONFIDENTIALITY

Everything we discussed is confidential and we all make a promise not to share what is spoken outside of the room

KINDNESS

Treating ourselves and others with care

VULNERABILITY

Being able to share our darkest feelings and feel uncomfortable for the sake of becoming more resilient

RESPECT

Being aware of the other people in the room and not monopolize the conversation

HONESTY

Only sharing personal stories, things that we know are true to us

INCLUSIVITY

Welcoming the full spectrum of ideas and perspectives

JOIN US

Dinners are held once a month
Upcoming dinner topics include...

*NOVEMBER*

MONEY

It's taboo. It's messy. It's complicated. Oftentimes rife with fear, guilt, avoidance, or resentment, money can become inextricably linked with our self worth, making many of us feel we never have (or are) "enough." While some of us trust our financial needs will be cared for, others may have an existential fear that there simply isn't enough and they'll always be lacking.Where do we learn these money mindsets from, and how can they evolve?

Let's talk about money - what we love, what we fear, and what it takes to relate to money from a healthy and empowered place.






*DECEMBER*

SHAME

It's that feeling of not being enough. Wrong. Dirty. Inherently bad. We feel shame towards core parts of who we are, what we've done, or how we present to the world. Whether it's personal or systemic, shame is a painful emotion, one which keeps us locked in cycles of blame, victimization and self-contempt.

Join us for an honest and vulnerable conversation around shame - where we inherited it from, where it shows up in our bodies and in our lives, and what keeps it there. Ultimately, what would our lives look like without our shame, and is that even something we are prepared to explore? 

*JANUARY*

BELONGING

Join us by RSVP’ing in your city below...

MEXICO

coming soon

What people are saying...

“This was one of the most empowering and vulnerable experiences I’ve ever had. Sharing your innermost feelings to strangers you weirdly trust more than your closest friends.”

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“The discussion on fear has really been on my mind in the weeks and months (now) since it passed. It was an incredibly memorable experience to tackle such a raw and personal topic head on with others... and left me with a feeling of comfort in some way knowing that I wasn’t alone in how I feel / how I struggle.”

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“The opportunity of sharing my experiences and allowing myself to be vulnerable in a con dential setting, while hearing the experiences from others has been liberating. A lot of the times you think you are the only one that feels or thinks in a particular way, and then you see that we all struggle with the same things, perhaps in different ways since we all have personal journeys. Every time I leave one of these women circles I feel empowered.”

TEAM

Who created this thing?

VERONICA MARQUEZ

MIAMI

I am a researcher and leadership coach. As a coach, I support founders, entrepreneurs, artists and female leaders to cultivate presence so they can lead with deeper clarity and courage. I am also a researcher for The Wellbeing Project and a mom of two young kids.

Back in 2017 I was feeling "alone in my head," struggling with my confidence and living with deep fears. When I invited 8 women into my home to talk about Self-Confidence, I never imagined that soon afterwards Dinner Confidential would be born and that this experiment would turn into a big and exciting global community. To make real change we need each other, and it all starts with having a real and honest conversation.

SYBIL OTTENSTEIN

BROOKLYN

I am an intuitive brand strategist, helping mission-driven business owners connect to their core WHY – their authentic soul purpose – and build powerful brands that reflect their values from the inside, out. In parallel to my work in brand strategy, I am currently on my path to becoming a somatic psychotherapist through a Masters in Mental Health Counseling. I am also a yoga teacher, Holistic Health Coach and a Reiki 1 practitioner.

For me, Dinner Confidential is truly a revolution. As a platform, we are returning the feminine paradigm back to the place of support, connection, and collaboration. Our stories aim to inspire and uplift, reminding women all over the world that they are not alone. Our ideas provide strength and courage, creating an empathetic movement of confident, empowered women. Viva la revolution!

How do you host dinners around the world?

Our curated community of Global Hosts are the Dinner Confidential superpower.

They are experienced professionals in the art of moderation, experts in facilitating enriching dialogue amongst dynamic groups of people.

They are researchers, facilitators, academics, and anthropologists, all united in their dedication to to feminine connection, cooperation and equality. But beyond their professional credentials, our Hosts are natural community builders. They are emboldened storytellers. They are women who listen and share with deep vulnerability, women who are open to learn, and women who have a passion for creating a safe container for other women.


Interested in becoming a host? Please apply here.

Our Hosts

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Esther Mateo

CARACAS

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Amy Subach

PORTLAND

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Claudia Espinel

CHICAGO

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Nitzan Cohen Arazi

TEL AVIV

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Rosalind Franklin

SAN FRANCISCO

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Rebecca Roebber

SEATTLE

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Danya Rose-Merkle

PORTLAND

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DEE DE LARA

TORONTO

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FRANCESCA VARDA

LIMA

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 Meaghan Kelly

MONTREAL

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Alexandra Suarez

PUERTO RICO

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Becky Williams

MANCHESTER

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Lisa CoX

NORMAN, OK

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Cecilia Sibony

LOS ANGELES

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Maria Sylvia Sahmkow

BOGOTA

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Vania Lourenco

SAO PAULO

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Neeti Savla

MUMBAI

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Silvi Demirasi

WASHINGTON DC

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Leah Caseley

DUBAI

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Connie flude

LONDON

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Saba Sadr

BEIRUT

STORIES

After each dinner, we share key learnings and insights from the night with our community so they too can benefit from the experience.

Explore our full archive of past dinners here.

NOVEMBER 2018

 LOVE

OCTOBER 2018

TRANSITIONS

SEPTEMBER 2018

SELF CONFIDENCE

SEE MORE STORIES

FAQ'S

What do you mean when you say “women”?

Anyone that is female identifying. Inclusivity is one of our core values! If you are male identifying and would love to attend a dinner, let’s talk!

Do attendees know each other?

Sometimes. But usually they don’t and that’s part of the magic. Coming into a place full of strangers to open up and share some of your most personal experiences is very powerful. No one there knows your history, you are a blank canvas. People won’t judge you or give you advice (unless you specifically ask for it). We are there to listen, share and connect.

How do you maintain confidentiality?

We include a vow of confidentiality in our invitation, and reiterate the importance of confidentiality at the start of each dinner. We create a strong container of trust and integrity, and expect the same of all of our participants.

How can I attend a dinner?

We are glad you are interested in attending a dinner. See our Join Us section to view dates, times and locations and to purchase your ticket.

How much are the dinners and what’s included?

Dinners are $15 and they include a healthy and yummy meal + drinks (wine and sparkling water). Note that we are NOT making any profit from these evening and the fee only covers the cost.

Is this nonprofit or for profit?

Our hosts will charge attendees a small venmo fee ($15 to cover dinner costs). So let’s call it net-zero profit.

How can I host a dinner?

We welcome hosts all over the world who has experience moderating or mediating group conversations. If you want to learn more about our host program, contact us at connect@dinnerconfidential.org.

Do the meals follow certain dietary guidelines?

Our hosts will always ensure there are vegetarian options available. If you have specific dietary restrictions, be sure to communicate with your host at least 1.5 weeks in advance.

What makes DC different from a women’s circles?

Our secret is our hosts and the stories we tell! Our dinners are led by professional moderators, researchers and facilitators all around the world. Brilliant women with years of experience conducting challenging conversations amongst diverse groups of people. We’re less about the woo-woo, and more about the the raw, real and impactful conversations with tangible insights for our attendees to take home with them and implement within their daily lives.

What’s your cancelation policy?

We put a lot of love and effort into these dinners so please do your best to avoid a last minute cancellation. If you need to cancel, try to find a replacement. All cancellations made less than one week in advance can’t be refunded.

CONTACT

For general info shoot us an email at
connect@dinnerconfidential.org

We have “ambassador” hosts that moderate dinners all over the world. If you are interested in becoming a host, contact us at please fill out this form.

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