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*all folks who identify as female in a significant way

ABOUT

One dinner, one night a month , one topic, discussed around a dinner table.

Dinner Confidential offers a safe space for women and female identifying folk to come together and talk with vulnerability and honesty about our most personal topics and emotions (e.g. self-confidence, fear, control).

After each dinner, we identify the key global learnings and insights from the topic and share them with our community so they too can benefit from the experience.

So far we've hosted  we dinners in over 25 cities worldwide.

Why we exist

FOR MOST OF OUR LIVES, WE HAVE BEEN TOLD TO AVOID OR SUPPRESS OUR INTENSE AND POWERFUL EMOTIONS. SOCIETY HAS HAD AWAY OF TELLING US THAT OUR FEELINGS ARE TOO COMPLEX, TOO UNPREDICTABLE—AND THAT ARE BEST LEFT IGNORED. OUR INTERNAL RESPONSE TO THE MESSAGES WE HAVE RECEIVED HAVE RANGED FROM A LACK OF INQUIRY TO A TOTAL SHUTDOWN AND SENSE OF DEEP SHAME.

Going through life & experiencing these emotions in silence, we have been left wondering, “Am I the only one who feels this way? Is it just me?”


NOW IS THE TIME TO REMOVE THE LAYERS OF SHAME AND SUPPRESSION AND EMBRACE TRUE  CONNECTION SO WE REMEMBER THAT WE ALL BELONG.

How does it work?

Confidential conversations around a theme, at dinner table, in a home.

Each Dinner is focused on one specific topic and lasts about 3 hours. We keep the groups small (6-10) to ensure we have time to dive deep into the conversation and everyone has time to share.

All conversations are CONFIDENTIAL.

• Dinner’s are held at hosts’ home
• We provide healthy and delicious food
• You BYOB (wine, flavored water, etc.)
• Not for profit, small fee to cover costs
• Come ready to share

Our Values

CONFIDENTIALITY

Everything we discuss
is confidential and we all make a promise not to share what is spoken outside of the room

KINDNESS

Treating ourselves and others with care

HUMILITY

No one is above or below anyone else - we are all teachers and students to one another

COURAGE

Choosing to be vulnerable so we can truly connect and be seen for all that we are

PRESENCE

Offering one another our full attention and focus

INCLUSIVITY

Welcoming people from all backgrounds, races, religions, ethnicities, beliefs and perspectives

CONFIDENTIALITY

Everything we discussed is confidential and we all make a promise not to share what is spoken outside of the room

KINDNESS

Treating ourselves and others with care

VULNERABILITY

Being able to share our darkest feelings and feel uncomfortable for the sake of becoming more resilient

RESPECT

Being aware of the other people in the room and not monopolize the conversation

HONESTY

Only sharing personal stories, things that we know are true to us

INCLUSIVITY

Welcoming the full spectrum of ideas and perspectives

JOIN US


Dinners are held once a month -- some are virtual, some are socially distanced gatherings. Please contact us to learn more.
Upcoming dinner topics include...

*JULY*

GUILT

Guilt. It keeps us up at night. Endlessly ruminating over what we thought, did, or said that was "bad" or "wrong."
Maybe you lied, cheated, or stole (anyone?). Maybe you said something that hurt someone else, and you feel awful about it. Maybe it's the guilt you feel for carrying a dark thought inside of you.  
Whatever it's source, guilt can seriously affect our sense of self-worth.
So, let's have an honest discussion: What role does guilt play in our lives? And how can we release it and make room for more nourishing thoughts and feelings in our lives?

*AUGUST*

SELF-CONFIDENCE

Is the ability to really get to know yourself, to trust yourself, and then to take courageous action in the world.
But it is hard to attain. The rabbit-hole of self-doubt, comparison and unworthiness can feel so enticing and within reach-leaving us feeling anxious, depressed or apathetic.
How can we believe in ourselves, especially when our faults and imperfections seem so loud and glaring?  Developing self-confidence can feel like our life's work.
Let’s talk about how self-confidence has impacted our lives and what needs to change so we can build our resilience and know our worth.

*SEPTEMBER*

Pleasure

Join us by RSVP’ing in your city below...
Including North & South America, Europe, Middle East, India, Japan and Australia

MEXICO

coming soon

What people are saying...

“This was one of the most empowering and vulnerable experiences I’ve ever had. Sharing your innermost feelings to strangers you weirdly trust more than your closest friends.”

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“The discussion on fear has really been on my mind in the weeks and months (now) since it passed. It was an incredibly memorable experience to tackle such a raw and personal topic head on with others... and left me with a feeling of comfort in some way knowing that I wasn’t alone in how I feel / how I struggle.”

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“The opportunity of sharing my experiences and allowing myself to be vulnerable in a confidential setting, while hearing the experiences from others has been liberating. A lot of the times you think you are the only one that feels or thinks in a particular way, and then you see that we all struggle with the same things, perhaps in different ways since we all have personal journeys. Every time I leave one of these gatherings I feel empowered.”

TEAM

Who created this thing?

VERONICA MARQUEZ

MIAMI

I am a researcher and leadership coach. As a coach, I support founders, entrepreneurs, artists and female leaders to cultivate presence so they can lead with deeper clarity and courage. I am also a researcher for The Wellbeing Project and a mom of two young kids.

Back in 2017 I was feeling "alone in my head," struggling with my confidence and living with deep fears. When I invited 8 women into my home to talk about Self-Confidence, I never imagined that soon afterwards Dinner Confidential would be born and that this experiment would turn into a big and exciting global community. To make real change we need each other, and it all starts with having a real and honest conversation.

SYBIL OTTENSTEIN

BROOKLYN

I am an intuitive brand strategist, helping mission-driven business owners connect to their core WHY – their authentic soul purpose – and build powerful brands that reflect their values from the inside, out. In parallel to my work in brand strategy, I am currently on my path to becoming a somatic psychotherapist through a Masters in Mental Health Counseling. I am also a yoga teacher, Holistic Health Coach and a Reiki 1 practitioner.

For me, Dinner Confidential is truly a revolution. As a platform, we are returning the feminine paradigm back to the place of support, connection, and collaboration. Our stories aim to inspire and uplift, reminding women all over the world that they are not alone. Our ideas provide strength and courage, creating an empathetic movement of confident, empowered women. Viva la revolution!

How do you host dinners around the world?

Our curated community of Global Hosts are the Dinner Confidential superpower.

They are experienced professionals in the art of moderation, experts in facilitating enriching dialogue amongst dynamic groups of people.

They are researchers, facilitators, academics, and anthropologists, all united in their dedication to to feminine connection, cooperation and equality. But beyond their professional credentials, our Hosts are natural community builders. They are emboldened storytellers. They are women who listen and share with deep vulnerability, women who are open to learn, and women who have a passion for creating a safe container for other women.


Interested in becoming a host?

APPLY HERE!

Our Hosts

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Esther Mateo

CARACAS

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ELLE pound

PERTH

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Claudia Espinel

CHICAGO

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Nitzan Cohen Arazi

TEL AVIV

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Rosalind Franklin

SAN FRANCISCO

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Rebecca Roebber

SEATTLE

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Shoshanna friedman

TEL AVIV

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DEE DE LARA

TORONTO

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NAOKO OKADA

TOKYO

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 Meaghan Kelly

MONTREAL

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Alexandra Suarez

PUERTO RICO

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ALEXANDRA ALMARAL

AMSTERDAM

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Lisa CoX

NORMAN,OK

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RENA TANG

TOKYO

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Maria Sylvia Sahmkow

BOGOTA

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CHELSEA HAYASHI

TOKYO

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Neeti Savla

MUMBAI

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Silvi Demirasi

WASHINGTON DC

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JULIE BERETTA

ROME

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LAUREeN HD

BERLIN

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ROXANNA BACHIRI

EDINBURGH

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diana moya

MEXICO CITY

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leslie collins

JERSEY CITY

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Anupama Easwaran

MUMBAI

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Alana cookman

LISBON

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raksha kumar

MUMBAI

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Sowmya Swaminathan

CHENNAI

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MARIASU NICOLINI

BUENOS AIRES

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VANINA GRUART

BUENOS AIRES

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DANYA ROSE-MERKLE

PORTLAND

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Eunique Deeann (euni)

SAN DIEGO

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Rachel Adelman

LONDON

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MARIANNE OH

SINGAPORE

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YOLANDA LEE

SINGAPORE

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TOPICS

After each dinner, we share key learnings and insights from the night with our community so they too can benefit from the experience. The personal stories are confidential. We never share those.

Read the articles from past dinners here.

PAST TOPICS INCLUDE:

Health
Belonging
Shame
Money
Forgiveness
Power
Trust
Anger
Self-Love
Ambition
Female Relationships
Abortion
Grief
Sex
Courage
Failure
Love
Change
Self-Confidence
Fear
Social Media
Sadness
Pleasing and Boundaries
Motherhood
Control

FAQ'S

What do you mean when you say “women”?

Anyone that is female identifying. Inclusivity is one of our core values! If you are male identifying and would love to attend a dinner, let’s talk!

Do attendees know each other?

Sometimes. But usually they don’t and that’s part of the magic. Coming into a place full of strangers to open up and share some of your most personal experiences is very powerful. No one there knows your history, you are a blank canvas. People won’t judge you or give you advice (unless you specifically ask for it). We are there to listen, share and connect.

How do you maintain confidentiality?

We include a vow of confidentiality in our invitation, and reiterate the importance of confidentiality at the start of each dinner. We create a strong container of trust and integrity, and expect the same of all of our participants.

How can I attend a dinner?

We are glad you are interested in attending a dinner. See our Join Us section to view dates, times and locations and to purchase your ticket.

How much are the dinners and what’s included?

Dinners are $15 and they include a healthy and yummy meal + drinks (wine and sparkling water). Note that we are NOT making any profit from these evening and the fee only covers the cost.

Is this nonprofit or for profit?

Our hosts will charge attendees a small venmo fee ($15 to cover dinner costs). So let’s call it net-zero profit.

How can I host a dinner?

We welcome hosts all over the world who has experience moderating or mediating group conversations. If you want to learn more about our host program, contact us at connect@dinnerconfidential.org.

Do the meals follow certain dietary guidelines?

Our hosts will always ensure there are vegetarian options available. If you have specific dietary restrictions, be sure to communicate with your host at least 1.5 weeks in advance.

What makes DC different from a women’s circles?

Our secret is our hosts and the stories we tell! Our dinners are led by professional moderators, researchers and facilitators all around the world. Brilliant women with years of experience conducting challenging conversations amongst diverse groups of people. We’re less about the woo-woo, and more about the the raw, real and impactful conversations with tangible insights for our attendees to take home with them and implement within their daily lives.

What’s your cancelation policy?

We put a lot of love and effort into these dinners so please do your best to avoid a last minute cancellation. If you need to cancel, try to find a replacement. All cancellations made less than one week in advance can’t be refunded.

CONTACT

For general info shoot us an email at
connect@dinnerconfidential.org

We have “ambassador” hosts that moderate dinners all over the world. If you are interested in becoming a host, contact us at please fill out this form.

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