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*all folks who identify as female in a significant way
One dinner, one night a month , one topic, discussed around a dinner table.
Dinner Confidential offers a safe space for women and female identifying folk to come together and talk with vulnerability and honesty about our most personal topics and emotions (e.g. self-confidence, fear, control).
After each dinner, we identify the key global learnings and insights from the topic and share them with our community so they too can benefit from the experience.
So far we've hosted we dinners in over 25 cities worldwide.
FOR MOST OF OUR LIVES, WE HAVE BEEN TOLD TO AVOID OR SUPPRESS OUR INTENSE AND POWERFUL EMOTIONS. SOCIETY HAS HAD AWAY OF TELLING US THAT OUR FEELINGS ARE TOO COMPLEX, TOO UNPREDICTABLE—AND THAT ARE BEST LEFT IGNORED. OUR INTERNAL RESPONSE TO THE MESSAGES WE HAVE RECEIVED HAVE RANGED FROM A LACK OF INQUIRY TO A TOTAL SHUTDOWN AND SENSE OF DEEP SHAME.
Going through life & experiencing these emotions in silence, we have been left wondering, “Am I the only one who feels this way? Is it just me?”
NOW IS THE TIME TO REMOVE THE LAYERS OF SHAME AND SUPPRESSION AND EMBRACE TRUE CONNECTION SO WE REMEMBER THAT WE ALL BELONG.
Each Dinner is focused on one specific topic and lasts about 3 hours. We keep the groups small (6-10) to ensure we have time to dive deep into the conversation and everyone has time to share.
All conversations are CONFIDENTIAL.
• Dinner’s are held at hosts’ home
• We provide healthy and delicious food
• You BYOB (wine, flavored water, etc.)
• Not for profit, small fee to cover costs
• Come ready to share
Everything we discuss
is confidential and we all make a promise not to share what is spoken outside of the room
Treating ourselves and others with care
No one is above or below anyone else - we are all teachers and students to one another
Choosing to be vulnerable so we can truly connect and be seen for all that we are
Offering one another our full attention and focus
Welcoming people from all backgrounds, races, religions, ethnicities, beliefs and perspectives
Everything we discussed is confidential and we all make a promise not to share what is spoken outside of the room
Treating ourselves and others with care
Being able to share our darkest feelings and feel uncomfortable for the sake of becoming more resilient
Being aware of the other people in the room and not monopolize the conversation
Only sharing personal stories, things that we know are true to us
Welcoming the full spectrum of ideas and perspectives
Relationships amongst women can be a tricky thing. In female friendships, many of us have experienced competition, envy, shame and even perhaps outright antagonism. Yet with all of its complications and trauma, "good" female friendships are often one of the most vital and important sources of connection, love and support in our lives.
Let's have an honest discussion: What is at the root of conflict in female friendship, what does female friendship look like in our lives, and how do we cultivate nurturing, lasting bonds with other women?
Many of us say "yes" too quickly to too many things and then find ourselves feeling drained, guilty or angry for not setting the right boundaries. Sometimes saying "no" can feel uncomfortable—after all, we want to connect and feel loved. How do we create boundaries without sacrificing connection? How can we be more honest with others— and ourselves— about our wants and limitations?
Let’s talk about how pleasing has impacted our lives. And what needs to change so we create healthy boundaries that foster a deeper sense of connection within ourselves.
At the core of so many of our darkest, most painful emotions lives fear. Some of us are afraid of flying, others of being alone, and most of us fear death. We fear what we can't control.When we are scared, the fear can take over our minds and bodies - it can paralyze us, blind us, and can compel us to act in ways that aren't caring or compassionate to ourselves and others.
Let's have an honest discussion: What is at the core of our fear, how does it show up in our lives, and how do we cultivate a greater level of awareness, and even compassion, with fear in our lives?
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Who created this thing?
I am a researcher and leadership coach. As a coach, I support founders, entrepreneurs, artists and female leaders to cultivate presence so they can lead with deeper clarity and courage. I am also a researcher for The Wellbeing Project and a mom of two young kids.
Back in 2017 I was feeling "alone in my head," struggling with my confidence and living with deep fears. When I invited 8 women into my home to talk about Self-Confidence, I never imagined that soon afterwards Dinner Confidential would be born and that this experiment would turn into a big and exciting global community. To make real change we need each other, and it all starts with having a real and honest conversation.
I am an intuitive brand strategist, helping mission-driven business owners connect to their core WHY – their authentic soul purpose – and build powerful brands that reflect their values from the inside, out. In parallel to my work in brand strategy, I am currently on my path to becoming a somatic psychotherapist through a Masters in Mental Health Counseling. I am also a yoga teacher, Holistic Health Coach and a Reiki 1 practitioner.
For me, Dinner Confidential is truly a revolution. As a platform, we are returning the feminine paradigm back to the place of support, connection, and collaboration. Our stories aim to inspire and uplift, reminding women all over the world that they are not alone. Our ideas provide strength and courage, creating an empathetic movement of confident, empowered women. Viva la revolution!
How do you host dinners around the world?
They are experienced professionals in the art of moderation, experts in facilitating enriching dialogue amongst dynamic groups of people.
They are researchers, facilitators, academics, and anthropologists, all united in their dedication to to feminine connection, cooperation and equality. But beyond their professional credentials, our Hosts are natural community builders. They are emboldened storytellers. They are women who listen and share with deep vulnerability, women who are open to learn, and women who have a passion for creating a safe container for other women.
Interested in becoming a host?
After each dinner, we share key learnings and insights from the night with our community so they too can benefit from the experience. The personal stories are confidential. We never share those.
Read the articles from past dinners here.
PAST TOPICS INCLUDE:
Pleasing and Boundaries
Anyone that is female identifying. Inclusivity is one of our core values! If you are male identifying and would love to attend a dinner, let’s talk!
Sometimes. But usually they don’t and that’s part of the magic. Coming into a place full of strangers to open up and share some of your most personal experiences is very powerful. No one there knows your history, you are a blank canvas. People won’t judge you or give you advice (unless you specifically ask for it). We are there to listen, share and connect.
We include a vow of confidentiality in our invitation, and reiterate the importance of confidentiality at the start of each dinner. We create a strong container of trust and integrity, and expect the same of all of our participants.
We are glad you are interested in attending a dinner. See our Join Us section to view dates, times and locations and to purchase your ticket.
Dinners are $15 and they include a healthy and yummy meal + drinks (wine and sparkling water). Note that we are NOT making any profit from these evening and the fee only covers the cost.
Our hosts will charge attendees a small venmo fee ($15 to cover dinner costs). So let’s call it net-zero profit.
We welcome hosts all over the world who has experience moderating or mediating group conversations. If you want to learn more about our host program, contact us at email@example.com.
Our hosts will always ensure there are vegetarian options available. If you have specific dietary restrictions, be sure to communicate with your host at least 1.5 weeks in advance.
Our secret is our hosts and the stories we tell! Our dinners are led by professional moderators, researchers and facilitators all around the world. Brilliant women with years of experience conducting challenging conversations amongst diverse groups of people. We’re less about the woo-woo, and more about the the raw, real and impactful conversations with tangible insights for our attendees to take home with them and implement within their daily lives.
We put a lot of love and effort into these dinners so please do your best to avoid a last minute cancellation. If you need to cancel, try to find a replacement. All cancellations made less than one week in advance can’t be refunded.
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