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Dinner Confidential is a community that hosts themed monthly dinner conversations [with women*] around the world.
When we really feel we belong, we gain the courage to make positive change in our lives and our world.
We’ve created the perfect recipe to spark that sense of belonging. All you have to do is open up and savor the experience.
*all folks who identify as female in a significant way
One dinner, one night a month , one topic, discussed around a dinner table.
Dinner Confidential offers a warm, brave and judgement-free space for women and female identifying folk to come together and talk with vulnerability and honesty about our most personal topics and emotions (e.g. self-confidence, fear, control).
After each dinner, we identify the key global learnings and insights from the topic and share them with our community so they too can benefit from the experience.
So far we've hosted we dinners in over 25 cities worldwide.
FOR MOST OF OUR LIVES, WE HAVE BEEN TOLD TO AVOID OR SUPPRESS OUR INTENSE AND POWERFUL EMOTIONS. SOCIETY HAS HAD AWAY OF TELLING US THAT OUR FEELINGS ARE TOO COMPLEX, TOO UNPREDICTABLE—AND THAT ARE BEST LEFT IGNORED. OUR INTERNAL RESPONSE TO THE MESSAGES WE HAVE RECEIVED HAVE RANGED FROM A LACK OF INQUIRY TO A TOTAL SHUTDOWN AND SENSE OF DEEP SHAME.
Going through life & experiencing these emotions in silence, we have been left wondering, “Am I the only one who feels this way? Is it just me?”
NOW IS THE TIME TO REMOVE THE LAYERS OF SHAME AND SUPPRESSION AND EMBRACE TRUE CONNECTION SO WE REMEMBER THAT WE ALL BELONG.
Each Dinner is focused on one specific topic and lasts about 3 hours. We keep the groups small (6-10) to ensure we have time to dive deep into the conversation and everyone has time to share.
All conversations are CONFIDENTIAL.
• Dinner’s are held at hosts’ home
• We provide healthy and delicious food
• You BYOB (wine, flavored water, etc.)
• Not for profit, small fee to cover costs
• Come ready to share
Everything we discuss
is confidential and we all make a promise not to share what is spoken outside of the room
Treating ourselves and others with care
No one is above or below anyone else - we are all teachers and students to one another
Choosing to be vulnerable so we can truly connect and be seen for all that we are
Offering one another our full attention and focus
Welcoming people from all backgrounds, races, religions, ethnicities, beliefs and perspectives
Everything we discussed is confidential and we all make a promise not to share what is spoken outside of the room
Treating ourselves and others with care
Being able to share our darkest feelings and feel uncomfortable for the sake of becoming more resilient
Being aware of the other people in the room and not monopolize the conversation
Only sharing personal stories, things that we know are true to us
Welcoming the full spectrum of ideas and perspectives
*SEPTEMBER*
In the age of a global pandemic, social upheaval, and uncertainty in all of our lives, pleasure can feel like a distant concept. Yet our relationship to pleasure is more important than ever before. As adrienne maree brown says, "Feeling good is not frivolous. It's freedom."
Pleasure is enjoyment. Bliss. Peace. Eroticism. Yet when we feel fear, shame, anger, sadness, pleasure can feel out of reach - or maybe it feels downright wrong.
Join us for a raw and honest conversation about pleasure - What were we taught? Can we FEEL it or do we hold ourselves back? And what would it look like if we trusted our pleasure?
*OCTOBER*
We know that “vulnerability” is required to take courageous action and to build deep connection with others.Yet, being genuinely vulnerable is hard for many of us. We don’t want to come across as weak or “broken.” So instead, we play it “safe,” we shy away from important, and often uncomfortable, conversions. We follow the status quo.
Brené Browns defines vulnerability as “uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure.” Let’s have a courageous conversation about what prevents us from being vulnerable? And what could happen in our lives and in our world if we embraced more vulnerability.
*NOVEMBER*
We all know the feeling: we want something that others have and we don’t – this can be their look, style, personality, job or number of followers! And instead of feeling inspired, we compare lives and accomplishments, making us feel small, angry, and downright uncomfortable. These emotions can bring up a lot of shame, so many of us leave them hidden deep in the shadows.
But what could happen if we shed light on them?
Let’s share and listen to our stories around jealousy — what makes us feel jealous, how do we act when we do, and what could happen if we allow more space and tenderness when it shows up.
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What people are saying...
“This was one of the most empowering and vulnerable experiences I’ve ever had. Sharing your innermost feelings to strangers you weirdly trust more than your closest friends.”
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“The discussion on fear has really been on my mind in the weeks and months (now) since it passed. It was an incredibly memorable experience to tackle such a raw and personal topic head on with others... and left me with a feeling of comfort in some way knowing that I wasn’t alone in how I feel / how I struggle.”
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“The opportunity of sharing my experiences and allowing myself to be vulnerable in a confidential setting, while hearing the experiences from others has been liberating. A lot of the times you think you are the only one that feels or thinks in a particular way, and then you see that we all struggle with the same things, perhaps in different ways since we all have personal journeys. Every time I leave one of these gatherings I feel empowered.”
Who created this thing?
MIAMI
I am a researcher and leadership coach. As a coach, I support founders, entrepreneurs, artists and female leaders to cultivate presence so they can lead with deeper clarity and courage. I am also a researcher for The Wellbeing Project and a mom of two young kids.
Back in 2017 I was feeling "alone in my head," struggling with my confidence and living with deep fears. When I invited 8 women into my home to talk about Self-Confidence, I never imagined that soon afterwards Dinner Confidential would be born and that this experiment would turn into a big and exciting global community. To make real change we need each other, and it all starts with having a real and honest conversation.
BROOKLYN
I am an intuitive brand strategist, helping mission-driven business owners connect to their core WHY – their authentic soul purpose – and build powerful brands that reflect their values from the inside, out. In parallel to my work in brand strategy, I am currently on my path to becoming a somatic psychotherapist through a Masters in Mental Health Counseling. I am also a yoga teacher, Holistic Health Coach and a Reiki 1 practitioner.
For me, Dinner Confidential is truly a revolution. As a platform, we are returning the feminine paradigm back to the place of support, connection, and collaboration. Our stories aim to inspire and uplift, reminding women all over the world that they are not alone. Our ideas provide strength and courage, creating an empathetic movement of confident, empowered women. Viva la revolution!
How do you host dinners around the world?
They are experienced professionals in the art of moderation, experts in facilitating enriching dialogue amongst dynamic groups of people.
They are researchers, facilitators, academics, and anthropologists, all united in their dedication to to feminine connection, cooperation and equality. But beyond their professional credentials, our Hosts are natural community builders. They are emboldened storytellers. They are women who listen and share with deep vulnerability, women who are open to learn, and women who have a passion for creating a safe container for other women.
Interested in becoming a host?
Our Hosts
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CARACAS
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PERTH
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CHICAGO
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TEL AVIV
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SAN FRANCISCO
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SEATTLE
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TEL AVIV
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TORONTO
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TOKYO
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MONTREAL
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PUERTO RICO
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AMSTERDAM
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NORMAN,OK
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TOKYO
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BOGOTA
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TOKYO
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MUMBAI
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WASHINGTON DC
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ROME
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BERLIN
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EDINBURGH
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MEXICO CITY
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JERSEY CITY
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MUMBAI
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LISBON
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MUMBAI
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CHENNAI
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BUENOS AIRES
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BUENOS AIRES
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PORTLAND
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SAN DIEGO
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LONDON
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MARIANNE OH
SINGAPORE
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SINGAPORE
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SEATTLE
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Anyone that is female identifying. Inclusivity is one of our core values! If you are male identifying and would love to attend a dinner, let’s talk!
Sometimes. But usually they don’t and that’s part of the magic. Coming into a place full of strangers to open up and share some of your most personal experiences is very powerful. No one there knows your history, you are a blank canvas. People won’t judge you or give you advice (unless you specifically ask for it). We are there to listen, share and connect.
We include a vow of confidentiality in our invitation, and reiterate the importance of confidentiality at the start of each dinner. We create a strong container of trust and integrity, and expect the same of all of our participants.
We are glad you are interested in attending a dinner. See our Join Us section to view dates, times and locations and to purchase your ticket.
Dinners are $15 and they include a healthy and yummy meal + drinks (wine and sparkling water). Note that we are NOT making any profit from these evening and the fee only covers the cost.
Our hosts will charge attendees a small venmo fee ($15 to cover dinner costs). So let’s call it net-zero profit.
We welcome hosts all over the world who has experience moderating or mediating group conversations. If you want to learn more about our host program, contact us at connect@dinnerconfidential.org.
Our hosts will always ensure there are vegetarian options available. If you have specific dietary restrictions, be sure to communicate with your host at least 1.5 weeks in advance.
Our secret is our hosts and the stories we tell! Our dinners are led by professional moderators, researchers and facilitators all around the world. Brilliant women with years of experience conducting challenging conversations amongst diverse groups of people. We’re less about the woo-woo, and more about the the raw, real and impactful conversations with tangible insights for our attendees to take home with them and implement within their daily lives.
We put a lot of love and effort into these dinners so please do your best to avoid a last minute cancellation. If you need to cancel, try to find a replacement. All cancellations made less than one week in advance can’t be refunded.
For general info shoot us an email at
connect@dinnerconfidential.org
We have “ambassador” hosts that moderate dinners all over the world. If you are interested in becoming a host, contact us at please fill out this form.
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