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Dinner Confidential is a 2-year project that aims to explore how women feel and how they approach life’s challenges and joys through intimate monthly dinners.
One dinner, one night a month , one topic, discussed around a dinner table.
Dinner Confidential is a safe container for women to come together and talk with vulnerability and honesty about our most personal topics and emotions (e.g. self-confidence, fear, control).
After each dinner, we identify the key learnings and insights from the night and share them with our community so they too can benefit from the experience.
Currently we are holding dinners in New York & Miami, with more cities to come.
FOR MOST OF OUR LIVES, WE HAVE BEEN TOLD TO AVOID OR SUPPRESS OUR INTENSE AND POWERFUL EMOTIONS. SOCIETY HAS HAD AWAY OF TELLING US THAT OUR FEELINGS ARE TOO COMPLEX, TOO UNPREDICTABLE—AND THAT ARE BEST LEFT IGNORED. OUR INTERNAL RESPONSE TO THE MESSAGES WE HAVE RECEIVED HAVE RANGED FROM A LACK OF INQUIRY TO A TOTAL SHUTDOWN AND SENSE OF DEEP SHAME.
Going through life & experiencing these emotions in silence, we have been left wondering, “Am I the only one who feels this way? Is it just me?”
NOW IS THE TIME TO REMOVE THE LAYERS OF SHAME AND SUPPRESSION AND STEP INTO OUR ALIVENESS.
Each Dinner is focused on one speci c topic and lasts about 3 hours. We keep the groups small (8- 10) so ensure we have time to dive deep into the conversation and everyone has time to share.
All conversations are CONFIDENTIAL.
• Dinner’s are held at hosts’ home
• We provide healthy and delicious food
• You BYOB (wine, flavored water, etc.)
• Not for profit, $15 to cover costs
• Come ready to share
Everything we discuss
is confidential and we all make a promise not to share what is spoken outside of the room
Being able to share our darkest feelings and feel uncomfortable for the sake of becoming more resilient
Only sharing personal stories, things that we know are true to us
Treating ourselves and others with care
Being aware of the other people in the room and not monopolizing the conversation
Welcoming the full spectrum of ideas and perspectives
Everything we discussed is confidential and we all make a promise not to share what is spoken outside of the room
Treating ourselves and others with care
Being able to share our darkest feelings and feel uncomfortable for the sake of becoming more resilient
Being aware of the other people in the room and not monopolize the conversation
Only sharing personal stories, things that we know are true to us
Welcoming the full spectrum of ideas and perspectives
*FEBRUARY*
Sex & sexuality is one of the least talked about but most fundamental aspects of the human condition. It's taboo, it's uncomfortable, it's powerful, it's important-let's talk about it. Questions to explore: What does your desire look like? How has your relationship to your sexuality changed over time? What fills up you up, and what depletes you?
*MARCH*
Loosing someone we love is one of the most painful and devastating experiences. Sometimes even just the idea of losing someone can keep us awake at night. Yet, loss it's unavoidable. Let's have an honest discussion: How do we cope with loss / idea of loss, how do we experience grief, how do we talk about death.
*APRIL*
Friendship amongst women can be a tricky thing. In female friendships, many of us have experienced competition, envy, shame and even perhaps outright antagonism. Yet with all of its complications and traumas, "good" female friendships are often one of the most vital and important sources of connection, love and support in our lives. Let's have an honest discussion: What is at the root of conflict in female friendship, what does female friendship look like in our lives, and how do we cultivate nurturing, lasting bonds with other women?
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What people are saying...
“This was one of the most empowering and vulnerable experiences I’ve ever had. Sharing your innermost feelings to strangers you weirdly trust more than your closest friends.” NY attendee
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“The discussion on fear has really been on my mind in the weeks and months (now) since it passed. It was an incredibly memorable experience to tackle such a raw and personal topic head on with others... and left me with a feeling of comfort in some way knowing that I wasn’t alone in how I feel / how I struggle.” NY attendee
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“The opportunity of sharing my experiences and allowing myself to be vulnerable in a con dential setting, while hearing the experiences from others has been liberating. A lot of the times you think you are the only one that feels or thinks in a particular way, and then you see that we all struggle with the same things, perhaps in different ways since we all have personal journeys. Every time I leave one of these women circles I feel empowered.” NY attendee
Who created this thing?
Three friends from the big apple
MIAMI
I support founders, entrepreneurs, artists and female leaders to get comfortable doing the uncomfortable—weather that is having a difficult conversation with a colleague, quitting their jobs and reinventing their careers or saying NO to others, despite their desire to please. I am also a researcher for The Wellbeing Project and a mom of two young kids.
I originally created Dinner Confidential out of a desire to connect with other women and discuss deep personal topics in a safe and unfiltered way. When I invited 8 ladies into my home to talk about Self-Confidence, I never imagined that 10 months later Dinner Confidential would be born and that my informal dinners would turn into a big and exciting project. To make real change we need each other, and it all starts with having a real and honest conversation.
BROOKLYN
I am an intuitive brand strategist and coach, helping mission-driven business owners connect to their core WHY – their authentic soul purpose – and build powerful brands that reflect their values from the inside, out. In parallel to my work in brand strategy, I am an avid yogi, a Holistic Health Coach, a Reiki practitioner, and I’m pretty obsessed with the healing power of plants.
For me, Dinner Confidential is truly a revolution. As a platform, we are returning the feminine paradigm back to the place of support, connection, and collaboration. Our stories aim to inspire and uplift, reminding women all over the world that they are not alone. Our ideas provide strength and courage, creating an empathetic movement of confident, empowered women. Viva la revolution!
NYC
Hi, my name is Alexandria.
I am a designer who lives in Alphabet City. My passion is studying symbols.
During the day I work with Fortune 50 companies designing for a diverse tabernacle of top-of mind brands. In the past, I've held respectable daytime jobs within a few of NYC's finest innovation labs. This allowed me to meet curious people & pay the bills.
Recently, I left my 9-5 to do more of the things I love. Including launching my own creative practice under the childhood pseudonym, zanda. This allows me to work on projects like Dinner Confidential- and other dream projects that bang on all cylinders.
How do you host dinners around the world?
They are experienced professionals in the art of moderation, experts in facilitating enriching dialogue amongst dynamic groups of people.
They are researchers, facilitators, academics, and anthropologists, all united in their dedication to to feminine connection, cooperation and equality. But beyond their professional credentials, our Hosts are natural community builders. They are emboldened storytellers. They are women who listen and share with deep vulnerability, women who are open to learn, and women who have a passion for creating a safe container for other women.
Our Hosts
NYC
CARACAS
BOGOTA
TEL AVIV
PORTLAND
TORONTO
LIMA
TOKYO
LOS ANGELES
AUSTIN
After each dinner, we share key learnings and insights from the night with our community so they too can benefit from the experience.
Explore our full archive of past dinners here.
SEE MORE STORIES
We decided to put a deadline because we like the idea of having a beginning, middle and end. This easily could go on forever but a two year deadline creates a vibrant container for creation. We want to spend this time gathering the richest, most honest stories from around the world in order to truly understand how women deal with certain emotions and situations. We aim to share our learnings as they come and maybe create something more robust at the end.
Anyone that is female identifying. Inclusivity is one of our core values! If you are male identifying and would love to attend a dinner, let’s talk!
Sometimes. But usually they don’t and that’s part of the magic. Coming into a place full of strangers to open up and share some of your most personal experiences is very powerful. No one there knows your history, you are a blank canvas. People won’t judge you or give you advice (unless you specifically ask for it). We are there to listen, share and connect.
We include a vow of confidentiality in our invitation, and reiterate the importance of confidentiality at the start of each dinner. We create a strong container of trust and integrity, and expect the same of all of our participants.
We are glad you are interested in attending a dinner. See our Join Us section to view dates, times and locations and to purchase your ticket.
Dinners are $15 and they include a healthy and yummy meal + drinks (wine and sparkling water). Note that we are NOT making any profit from these evening and the fee only covers the cost.
Our hosts will charge attendees a small venmo fee ($15 to cover dinner costs). So let’s call it net-zero profit.
We welcome hosts all over the world who has experience moderating or mediating group conversations. If you want to learn more about our host program, contact us at connect@dinnerconfidential.org.
Our hosts will always ensure there are vegetarian options available. If you have specific dietary restrictions, be sure to communicate with your host at least 1.5 weeks in advance.
Our secret is our hosts and the stories we tell! Our dinners are led by professional moderators, researchers and facilitators all around the world. Brilliant women with years of experience conducting challenging conversations amongst diverse groups of people. We’re less about the woo-woo, and more about the the raw, real and impactful conversations with tangible insights for our attendees to take home with them and implement within their daily lives.
We put a lot of love and effort into these dinners so please do your best to avoid a last minute cancellation. If you need to cancel, try to find a replacement. All cancellations made less than one week in advance can’t be refunded.
For general info shoot us an email at
connect@dinnerconfidential.org
We have “ambassador” hosts that moderate dinners all over the world. If you are interested in becoming a host, contact us at connect@dinnerconfidential.org
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